Family IT Guy Podcast

Ben Gillenwater helps families protect children from digital dangers, bringing 30 years of cybersecurity expertise to the parenting journey. His background includes working with the NSA and serving as Chief Technologist of a $10 billion IT company, where he built global-scale systems and understood technology's risks at every level.

His mission began when he gave his young son an iPad with "kid-safe" apps—only to discover inappropriate content days later. Despite his deep technical background, Ben realized that if protecting children online was challenging for him, it must be even more difficult for parents without his expertise.

Through Family IT Guy, Ben creates videos and articles that help parents and kids learn how to leverage the positive parts of the internet while avoiding the dangerous and risky parts. His approach bridges the knowledge gap between complex technology and practical family protection, making digital safety accessible to everyone.

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Friday Sep 26, 2025

I just taught a robot everything I know about keeping families safe online.With millions watching Family IT Guy content weekly, I can't personally help everyone. This AI chatbot changes that - it is trained on all of my work - my articles, videos, lectures and podcasts.Perfect for parents who:- Feel overwhelmed by constantly changing technology- Need answers in languages other than English- Want expert guidance without expensive consulting fees- Have specific questions about their family's situationTry it for free at www.familyitguy.com - I hope you find it helpful.

Thursday Sep 25, 2025

30-year cybersecurity expert reveals why YouTube Kids isn't actually safe and what parents can do about it. My child's experience with nightmare-inducing content led me to research solutions that actually work.As both a cybersecurity professional and a dad, I've discovered that YouTube Kids has three major problems: addictive algorithmic design, inappropriate content infiltration, and low awareness of protective features.NOTES FROM THIS VIDEO:- YouTube Kids algorithms are designed to capture attention indefinitely- Sexual and violent content appears despite "kid-safe" branding- The whitelist feature that defeats both problems- Step-by-step protection setup that takes under 5 minutes is available for free at https://www.familyitguy.com/parent-approved-videos-only.html

Wednesday Sep 24, 2025

"After our research uncovered that underage children using Meta VR in Germany were subject to demands for sex acts, nude photos...Meta demanded that we erase any evidence of such dangers that we saw" - Sworn testimony from Meta's VR safety researcher, Jason SattizahnCayce Savage testified: "So I would estimate that any child that is in a social space in VR will come in contact with or directly expose something very inappropriate"Delete their apps. Tell your kids why. It is easy to recognize when companies do not prioritize child safety. This sworn testimony removes all doubt.Video of the referenced hearing is available at https://www.c-span.org/program/senate-committee/meta-whistleblowers-testify-on-child-safety-research/665347

Friday Aug 29, 2025

David Baszucki: Millions of kids play Roblox daily, but there's a critical safety gap only you can fix.Parents watching: I'm addressing Roblox's CEO directly, but need your help amplifying this message. Every share brings us closer to change.David, I've been publicly critical of Roblox - not from malice, but from concern. As a cybersecurity professional with 30 years experience (including NSA) and a father, I see a clear solution: whitelist parental controls.THE PROBLEM:The Roblox platform has millions of user-created games that change daily. Parents cannot possibly review them all. We need what YouTube Kids already offers: "approved content only" mode.THE BUSINESS CASE:Yes, whitelist controls might reduce short-term engagement metrics. But long-term, you'll gain millions of parents who currently won't let their kids near Roblox. Lead the industry. Transform negative press into positive coverage. Show that child safety and business success aren't mutually exclusive.THE ASK:Implement whitelist features allowing parents to:- Approve specific games before access- Approve trusted developers- Control content exposure proactively, not reactivelyDavid, be the CEO who chose children's safety over engagement metrics. I'll be first to celebrate your leadership.Parents: Share this with #RobloxWhitelist. Email Roblox support. Send to your school groups. Your voice matters.

Thursday Aug 28, 2025

A teenager's tragic story reveals why children should never use ChatGPT alone. Here's what parents must know to keep kids safe.16-year-old Adam Raine spent 7 months confiding in ChatGPT before taking his own life. The AI's responses - including "you don't owe them survival" - show why unsupervised AI access poses serious risks to vulnerable children. This video explains what happened and how to protect your family.KEY SAFETY PRINCIPLES:- AI appears to understand by mimicing human behavior- Children cannot distinguish AI responses from genuine care- Private technology use enables risky AI relationships- Parent education must precede child accessIMMEDIATE PROTECTIVE STEPS:1. Establish tech-free private spaces (bedrooms, bathrooms)2. Create a common-area charging station3. Try the AI testing exercises yourself4. Have an age-appropriate conversation about AI5. Supervise all AI interactionsThis isn't about fearing technology - it's about understanding its limitations and protecting vulnerable children during critical developmental years.Visit FamilyITGuy.com and type AI in the search box for detailed safety guides and age-specific exercises to help your family navigate AI safely.#AISafety #DigitalParenting #ChatGPT #ChildProtection #OnlineSafety #ParentingTips #MentalHealth #TechBoundaries

Wednesday Aug 27, 2025

WARNING: If this is not the right time in your day to hear a very sad story about the death of a child, you may want to come back to this another time.Suicide is now the #2 cause of death for ages 10-24. Jason Sokolowski's daughter Penelope became part of that statistic in February 2025, just six months ago. In this raw conversation, Jason shares what he learned too late about the 764 group and online predation.The 764 group operates with literal guidebooks for grooming children. They reached Penelope through Roblox, controlled her through death threats against Jason and his ex-wife, and weaponized authorities against him when Jason tried to learn more about who is behind this evil.Jason reveals:✓ Specific grooming tactics he witnessed but didn't recognize✓ Why monitoring apps and parental controls failed✓ How kids create accounts under parent emails✓ The extortion cycle that traps children✓ Warning signs every parent should know✓ Immediate protective actions availableEvery parent thinks "not my child." Jason thought that too.Opening & Context00:00:78 - Introduction: Why this conversation matters00:02:09 - Who was Penelope: A brilliant, creative 16-year-oldFamily Technology Journey00:17:54 - First phone at 11: Setting boundaries that seemed reasonable00:20:20 - Roblox monitoring: "I thought I was covering all bases"00:22:39 - The anime friend: Witnessing grooming without recognizing it00:29:16 - Instagram discovery: Multiple accounts, hidden personas00:35:40 - TikTok emergence: 2500 followers and growing concernCrisis Escalation01:15:24 - First self-harm incident: Text from bathroom01:18:47 - Second cutting episode: "The sight I have in my brain"01:20:11 - "I'm part of a self-harm group"01:23:56 - First suicide attempt01:25:51 - Discovery of 764 messaging: "Culprit" carved into chestUnderstanding 76400:49:22 - How 764 operates: Love bombing to extortion00:51:56 - The protection trap: Kids protecting parents from death threats00:55:55 - Culprit's phone calls: Predator contacting Jason directly01:11:53 - 764 origins: Bill Cadenhead and grooming guidebooks01:30:34 - Self-harm bucket list: Gamification of sufferingSystem Failures00:45:35 - Schools enabling access: Kids exchanging favors for internet01:33:41 - Protection order: How predators weaponize authorities01:37:03 - Forced removal from home: System playing into predator's planCritical Insights & Solutions00:42:39 - Timeline: 3-6 months from grooming to full control01:47:05 - Suicide as #2 cause of youth death01:51:30 - "Extortion is attempted murder"02:18:43 - Core solution: No phones in bedrooms00:46:54 - Essential reading: "The Anxious Generation"03:02:44 - Meeting kids with curiosity, not judgment03:06:28 - The Aunt Becky example: True curiosity

Thursday Aug 21, 2025

I'm a cybersecurity expert who worked with the NSA. I'm also a dad.When I tested Roblox as an 8-year-old with MAXIMUM parental controls, I found sexual content within minutes.Roblox just banned Schlep - who got 6 predators arrested. Now 100,000 people have signed a petition. Congress is involved. Louisiana's Attorney General wants them shut down.Their new "safety" video https://youtu.be/cuPGe99m8zs ? It's not about protecting your kids. It's about protecting their stock price.WHAT EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO KNOW:- 40 million kids under 13 use Roblox daily- Parental controls DON'T work- They refuse to add basic safety features- Your kid's face scan may be stored foreverWatch this video. Share it. Your kids deserve better.#Roblox #ParentsNeedToKnow

Friday Aug 15, 2025

Your child's future might depend on the conversations you're NOT having because of your phone. This changes everything about screen time limits.Join Family IT Guy Ben Gillenwater and Dr. Steve Underwood (https://www.veritasedconsulting.com) as they connect dots between device addiction and the literacy crisis. Steve overcame poverty and a severe stutter to become a leading education consultant - and his insights will transform how you think about technology's real cost to your family.CRITICAL MOMENTS:00:01:40 - Steve's personal struggle that shaped his mission00:24:21 - The grocery store test revealing 10,000 word gaps00:28:08 - "Rich get richer, poor get poorer" in literacy00:43:03 - When addiction patterns repeat across generations00:47:08 - Using YouTube as a conversation tool, not babysitter01:20:14 - Why typing skills don't equal future readinessLearn why first grade is the literacy deadline, how to ask questions that build critical thinking, and what "attachment parenting" means in our digital world.Perfect for parents who've read "The Anxious Generation" and want specific, actionable strategies beyond just limiting screen time.#DigitalParenting #LiteracyCrisis #EducationReform #ScreenAddiction #ChildBrainDevelopment #ParentingStrategies

Wednesday Aug 13, 2025

Former police officer Conrad Woodall has spent 25 years working with survivors of sexual assault and trafficking. In this eye-opening conversation, he shares hard truths about what's really happening to our kids online and in schools.What You'll Learn:- Why over 100 boys sent inappropriate images to his 16-year-old daughter- How a child was molested in just 37 seconds at a Dollar Tree- Why certain kindergarten books are perfect grooming tools for predators- How to teach kids consent as "the power to stop" not just saying yes- Why sheltering kids from technology makes them MORE vulnerable- How teaching toddlers to "fight the vacuum" builds crucial neural pathways- The one skill every child needs before touching any deviceConrad developed the RECOVER model of therapeutic self-defense after seeing his mother's childhood trauma shape his family. With a master's in forensic psychology and 12 years as a Sacramento police officer, he understands both predator psychology and survivor recovery.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Introduction & Conrad's Background01:56 Mother's Trauma That Started It All11:50 The Spider Analogy - How Trauma Affects Intimacy14:35 Redefining Consent: The Power to Stop28:42 100+ Dick Pics: The Shocking Reality in Schools45:13 The 37-Second Molestation Case53:45 How Kindergarten Books Help Predators1:04:28 Your Kids: Big Tech's Test Subjects1:18:37 Teaching Toddlers to Fight Fear1:29:11 Raising a Daughter Who Triangle Chokes Boyfriends1:43:41 The 4-Year-Old Who Saved HerselfResources Mentioned:NetsmartzConnect SafelyInternet Keep Safe CoalitionTrad Fam (Idaho organization)Note: This conversation contains discussions of sexual assault, child abuse, and trauma. While approached sensitively, some content may be triggering.#childsafety #onlinesafety #parenting #digitalparenting #internetsafety #parentingtips #ConradWoodall #traumarecovery #kidsandtechnology #cybersafety #parentingpodcast #childprotection

Saturday Aug 09, 2025

We're disrupting sextortion operations worldwide - and the criminals are getting desperate. Here's what every parent needs to know.As a 30-year cybersecurity expert and father, I'm seeing firsthand how education about online predators is making criminals less effective. In this video, I explain why scammers are trying to infiltrate my content and, more importantly, share the exact conversation you need to have with your kids tonight.What you'll learn:- Why education is the best defense against sextortion- Specific predator tactics: love bombing, sudden friendship, photo requests- The critical response if your child becomes a victim- How criminal networks operate globallyTimestamps:0:00 Evidence we're winning1:10 How this disrupts criminal business2:01 Teaching kids to recognize red flags2:40 Crisis response protocolDon't let your child become a statistic. Watch, learn, and share with other parents.

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