Family IT Guy Podcast

FBI Psychologist: Your Kid’s Phone Is More Dangerous Than a Gun

Dr. Lisa Strohman spent 30 years studying what hurts kids—from profiling at FBI Quantico after Columbine to serving as an expert witness in New Mexico v. Meta. Her conclusion? The phone in your child's pocket is more dangerous than a gun on your kitchen table. At least the kid knows to be afraid of the gun.We get into the CDC data, what she saw inside Meta's own research, why 400 girls at one school deleted social media on Valentine's Day, and what happened when she gave her own son Snapchat and immediately regretted it.Timestamps:0:00 - Lisa's background: FBI, Columbine, 30 years in digital safety2:15 - 800,000 kids follow the Columbine ideology5:10 - CDC data: self-harm spikes after social media7:00 - False narratives from platforms9:30 - "A phone is more dangerous than a gun on the table"12:05 - Inside the case against Meta19:40 - 400 girls quit social media on Valentine's Day22:50 - "Tech is a tool, not a toy"27:00 - Warning signs for parents of girls33:37 - The expert's own parenting story39:40 - "I gave my son Snapchat"43:17 - One thing parents can do this week45:11 - Digital Citizen Academy49:45 - Final questionAbout Dr. Lisa Strohman:Clinical psychologist, attorney, and founder of Digital Citizen Academy (digitalcitizenacademy.org). Her free book "Digital Distress" is available at digitalcitizenacademy.org/digital-resources.Resources:Family IT Guy: https://www.familyitguy.comiPhone Setup Guide: http://familyitguy.com/go/iphoneguide

AI Videos vs Deepfakes: How to Tell What’s Real Online (With Jeremy Carrasco)

How do you protect your kids online when even adults can’t tell what’s real anymore?AI-generated videos, deepfakes, and synthetic audio are not just a tech issue. They are showing up inside the apps our kids use every day, mixed in with cartoons, music clips, and “safe” educational content. Most children, and plenty of adults, are being trained to trust whatever looks and sounds real.In this episode of the Family IT Guy Podcast, I sat down with Jeremy Carrasco@showtoolsai a media producer and AI analyst, to talk about what parents need to understand right now. How AI content is made, how algorithms push it, and how families can spot it before it causes harm.Jeremy is not guessing from the outside. He has spent years in professional video production, live streaming, and audio engineering. He knows what real human media looks like when it is made by actual people, and where AI still gives itself away.One of the biggest tells?👉 AI doesn’t breathe.AI videos can look believable, especially on a small phone screen. But once you know what to listen and look for, the cracks show up fast. Those cracks matter because kids do not have the life experience or media literacy to notice them on their own.In this conversation, we break things down in a way parents can actually use.First, AI videos versus deepfakes.They are often treated as the same thing, but they are not. Jeremy explains the difference, why deepfakes tend to be targeted, and why mass-produced AI videos are now flooding platforms at scale, often designed to hook kids with familiar characters, faces, or voices.Second, why audio matters more than visuals.Parents are taught to watch what their kids see, but listening is just as important. We talk about unnatural speech pacing, missing breaths, flat or mismatched emotion, and why the human voice is still one of the hardest things for AI to fake convincingly.Third, visual and behavioral red flags parents can learn.Subtle background warping, strange eye movement, awkward timing, and non-human rhythm. These are things media professionals spot quickly, but they can also be taught to parents who want to be more proactive instead of reactive.We also zoom out to the bigger issue parents are up against.Algorithms do not understand childhood, safety, or values. They understand engagement. A feed that starts with something harmless, Bluey, Miss Rachel, animal videos, or learning content, can shift quickly after one curious search or autoplay chain. That is how kids end up exposed to disturbing, violent, or sexualized AI-generated content that looks playful but is not.We talk about:- Why kids’ algorithms are some of the most profitable and dangerous systems online- How “safe” feeds slowly drift without parents realizing- Why YouTube Kids is safer than regular YouTube but still not a set-it-and-forget-it solution- The rise of AI-generated sexualized content involving children- Why sharing kids online can create exposure parents never intended- Safer ways to share family photos using privacy-first tools- Why adults have to act as stewards of their children’s digital privacy, even when the platforms will notThis episode is not about fear or banning technology. It is about giving parents clarity in a digital world that is changing faster than most families realize.If you are raising kids right now, or care about the internet they are growing up in, this conversation is worth your time.🎙️ Guest: Jeremy Carrasco — Media Producer & AI Analyst🎧 Podcast: Family IT Guy

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Protecting Kids Online: Missing Children, AI Scams, and Digital Exploitation with Shawnna Hoffman

In this episode of the Family IT Guy Podcast, I sit down with Shawnna Hoffman, CEO of the International Center for Missing and Exploited Children (ICMEC), for a raw and deeply personal conversation about online exploitation, AI-enabled scams, human trafficking, and the growing risks facing kids and teens online.Shawnna shares her journey from decades in Big Tech and AI leadership to leading a global organization focused on returning missing children to their families. She also opens up about her own family’s experience with a long-term online scam that targeted her autistic son, exposing how sophisticated, patient, and psychologically damaging modern online exploitation has become.This episode covers: • How online grooming and long-term scams target kids and young adults • The role AI and social platforms play in exploitation and manipulation • Why parental controls alone are not enough • The reality of missing children and trafficking on a global scale • How ICMEC measures success by one metric only: kids reunited with families • The difference between facial detection and facial recognition • Why digital safety requires community action, better safeguards, and real accountabilityIf you are a parent, caregiver, educator, or anyone concerned about child safety online, this conversation is essential listening.🔒 Learn more about protecting kids online: https://familyitguy.com🌍 Learn more about the International Center for Missing and Exploited Children: https://www.icmec.org

764 Update: The Online Network Targeting Kids Is Getting Worse

Earlier this year, I spoke with Jason Sokolowski about the loss of his 16-year-old daughter, Penelope, after she was targeted by the online criminal network known as 764.This video is an update — and the situation is escalating.764 is a decentralized exploitation network targeting vulnerable kids, primarily girls ages 10–17, across platforms like Discord, Roblox, TikTok, Instagram, and Snapchat. The FBI and DOJ are actively investigating, but reports are increasing, not slowing down.In this video, I cover:• What 764 is and how it operates• Why it’s designed to turn victims into perpetrators• Warning signs parents should never ignore• Why monitoring alone is not enough• What to do if your child may be targetedIf your child can receive messages from strangers online, they are at risk. This is information every parent needs to hear.📌 If you suspect exploitation:Report to the FBI at ic3.govOr call DHS Know2Protect: 833-591-5669Please share this with other parents.

The Antidote to Internet Chaos

The internet is constant noise: endless scrolling, reacting and stimulation. It's rewiring our brains to consume information in tiny bursts and it's affecting everyone, including our kids.So what's the antidote?Stillness.I've spent 30 years in cybersecurity and I help families navigate technology and online safety. One pattern shows up again and again. We can't teach our kids to manage digital chaos if we can't manage it ourselves.Psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen teaches a simple 15-second breathing protocol.Inhale for 4 seconds, hold, exhale for 8 seconds, hold again, then repeat several cycles. That longer exhale sends a signal to the body that things are safe and it's okay to calm down.I looked for an app that uses this pattern without endless menus or decisions and couldn't find one. So I built one called Being - One Minute to Calm. When you open it, it starts immediately. No signups, no subscriptions, just breathing and stillness. It uses gentle haptic taps so you can follow the pattern with your eyes open or closed.Available on iPhone, iPad, Apple Watch and Apple TV. Android is coming soon.Search "Being - One Minute to Calm" in the App Store or visit https://www.familyitguy.com/being/Do you have any experience with meditation or breathwork? Share your story in the comments.

Inside the Mind of Predators: Forensic Psychologist Dr. Leslie Dobson on Child Predators & Risk

How can families protect children from dangerous predators - both online and in real life? In this eye-opening episode of the Family IT Guy Podcast, Dr. Leslie Dobson, forensic psychologist, dives into the psychology of violent offenders, including child predators, and reveals why consequences in the justice system often fall short.Dr. Dobson shares real stories from her decades of experience working in prisons, state hospitals, and private practice, explaining how understanding the criminal mind can empower families to protect their children. She also discusses how social media can be a powerful tool for raising awareness and holding offenders accountable.In this episode, you’ll learn:- How offenders cycle through the criminal justice system- The limitations and corruption in handling child predators- The role of forensic psychology in protecting victims- How families can use knowledge and advocacy to improve safety- Practical insights for keeping kids safe online📌 Subscribe for more on family safety, online protection, and tech.👍 Like if you want to protect your family better💬 Comment your thoughts or questions about child safety online

How One Parent Took on Smartphones in Elementary School — and Changed a Community

When smartphones started showing up in 1st grade, Meri knew something had to change. As a PR expert and mom who understood AI, algorithms, and why these devices are so addictive, she dove into the research—and then took action.In this episode, we talk about how she:1. Partnered with schools and clinical psychologists to educate kids AND parents2. Helped implement Wait Until 8th in her community3. Worked with school leadership on behavior impacts from devices and social media4. Started a “Tech Corner” in school and church newsletters5. Equipped parents with the data they needed to make informed choices6. Built a like-minded community instead of fighting the battle aloneHer mission?Arm parents with information so they can protect their kids’ brains—not just hope tech companies or the government will. Actionable steps for parents (we cover in detail): • Alternatives to smartphones • Parent email template you can send TODAY (email info@familyitguy.com for template) • How to build a community of like-minded families: – FITG Community: https://lnk.bio/s/84ae0 – @WaitUntil8th: https://lnk.bio/s/fd234 – TinCan Phone pods: https://lnk.bio/s/1074b – Playdates with shared rules – No-photo posting waivers at school • How to confidently start conversations with other parentsYour kids’ safety isn’t up for grabs—and you don’t have to wait for someone else to draw the line.Watch now and share with a parent who needs this!Subscribe for more Family IT Guy episodes that help YOU navigate tech and parenting with confidence.